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A Simple Yes or No: A question of fidelity
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A Simple Yes or No: A question of fidelity

The Ontarion on February 25, 2010 with 2 Comments

So here’s the scoop, over reading week I went on a road trip with my girlfriend and another couple. Before we left, I was feeling a little apprehensive because I had never met either of these individuals before. Because they were high school chums with my girlfriend, I gave them the benefit of the doubt and we hit the road.
My first impression of the couple was a really good one. As the girls slept in the back of the car, the boys rode upfront talking music, movies, and video games. It didn’t take us long to realize that we had a lot in common. Throughout our multiple-hour road trip, the conversation evolved from superficial common likes and dislikes to everything from political viewpoints, robots, and time travel. It was clear that this new acquaintance and I were going to get along like peas and carrots.
After we spent the first two days of our four-day trip together, my girlfriend dropped a bomb on me (metaphorically speaking of course). She confided in me that her friend, who seemed nice enough, had been cheating on her boyfriend for some time now. This put me in a very awkward situation, now I was forced to carry the weight of knowing that my new friend’s girlfriend was being unfaithful to him and getting a little something-something on the side, if you know what I mean.
It was not as though I have known this fellow for a long time, or that I even know him all that well. But he seemed to be a genuinely nice and caring boyfriend, certainly not someone who deserves to be cheated on. I hate to be cliché, and I definitely don’t want to go all Matrix on you, but in this case, ignorance would have been bliss. I just felt like I didn’t know either of these individuals well enough to be privy to their most intimate secrets.
Now I know what you are thinking, ‘You just met this guy and his relationship is none of your business.’ But I almost broke when he told me that he was considering marrying this girl. I was torn because I really liked this guy and although I only met him a few days ago, I felt like we really bonded during our long drive together. So, I spent the rest of our trip with this information eating at my conscience.
Knowing that this nice guy’s girlfriend was cheating on him was a difficult for me to handle. Which begs the question, should I have told a guy I just met that his girlfriend is cheating on him?

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  1. Sandy Anger February 25, 2010 at 2:53 pm

    I can't really say whether or not you should have told him. I'm just going to say that I'm glad I wasn't in your position. I would feel horrible knowing something like that. I don't think there's really any excuse for cheating and although it's something you never want to hear, I don't necessarily think it's something you never want to know. I think I would want to know. Ignorance may be bliss for him, but that doesn't mean he would choose bliss. You would also have to consider the effect it could have on your friendship with your friend. Cheater girl could get pissed at her for telling you and then her get pissed at you for telling him and it could all get out of hand. Who knows. But yeah, I wouldn't be very comfortable spending the week/ end or whatever with these people knowing this dirty secret.

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  2. Kerry February 27, 2010 at 12:30 pm

    Considering he's thinking of marrying this girl, it was definitely important that he knows! Maybe telling him right in the middle of the trip would be awkward, but in fairness to him, it should be done. He is seriously committed to her and he should know that she obviously isn't.

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