Say “I love you”

Say “I love you”

The right time to drop the “L” word is different for everybody

“I love you” can be a daunting phrase to say. Can you say it when you’re still just beginning to date, or only when you’re established partners? How early into the relationship are you allowed to say it? What if they don’t say it back?

The answer to all of this is: say it when you mean it.

If you are the type of person who falls in love quickly, then don’t feel shy to tell your partner you love them. If you are in a long-term relationship and still haven’t said it, that’s also fine, as long as you are honest about your feelings.

Many people believe that love is an independent journey; something you have to know in yourself before you say it to your partner. But I believe every good relationship has conversation.

Why do our conversations around love only start when we’re definitely, absolutely, 100 per cent in love?

Ten months into my own relationship, I told my partner that I didn’t know if I was in love with her; so she told me she was in love with me. Although that conversation was uncomfortable for the both of us, she did not pressure me into saying that I loved her too. It wasn’t until a month and a half later that I was able to say it. We were a few weeks shy of our one-year anniversary.

There does not need to be a rush to feel things you may not feel. Being honest with yourself, your partner, and your feelings is important. And it’s incredibly important to know that love doesn’t feel the same way for everyone. One of the reasons it took me so long to tell my own partner was because it didn’t feel like the intense high school crush I had before. Nor did it feel like the love I had for my best friend, or my family. It was a different feeling and it took time for me to put a label on it and understand that it was still love.

But patience is a virtue and having patience with your partner will not go unrecognized. With minimal stress on the idea of love, you will be able to come to the conclusion on your own, understanding your own feelings.

Falling in love is a very intense and different experience for everyone. Find the right partner and, when you’re ready, tell them those three special words: “I love you.”

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